Asking for Feedback is Pointless. Instead, Ask for Advice.

Essentially, asking for feedback doesn't feed your interviewer's ego, whereas asking for advice does.

If a candidate I did not hire wants to make me uncomfortable, they only need to ask for feedback. (I will revisit this.)

Self-proclaiming job search experts and career coaches commonly advise asking for feedback when you do not get the job you have interviewed for. The thinking—as if all hiring managers assess candidates in the same way—is that you will …